Moving abroad comes with the excitement of a new job, a new culture, and a new city, but the change also brings a lot of uncertainty, stress, and sometimes frustration.
While having your family close to you is the best option, moving abroad as expats usually changes the dynamic of the relationship between partners. This thing not only has an impact on any of the individuals, but it involves a tremendous impact (usually a negative one) on the relationship itself.
In my experience, many couples I’ve talked to have reported that the move was very stressful, and the partners started to have more fights and misunderstandings. Moreover, some even decided to move back home in under one year since the moment they arrived in the new country and perceived the move as a big failure.
I know from personal experience that uprooting your life, leaving your job, or changing your location will, understandably, impact your relationship. Unfortunately, not even a common cultural background cannot insulate partners from the difficulties they are bound to encounter abroad.
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Why? Mostly because when couples move abroad, a great deal of attention is focused upon the practicalities of moving overseas and settling in, instead of communicating with the partner the emotions, suffering or anxiety they feel.
Find below a list of the extra strains that moving abroad puts on a relationship to which I will try to come up with some practical tools and insights to overcome them fully.
So, a major change like moving abroad together introduces new stressors such as:
However, it is crucial that you take into consideration your personal relationships and work hard to counter any negative impacts that moving abroad can have. It is important that you work together with your partner through the entire process, otherwise, you could start to drift apart, and arguments will no doubt occur.
If you are completely honest with each other about all your feelings throughout, you are far less likely to find yourself in the middle of a relationship crisis. Remember that it is natural to be scared and apprehensive about moving your life to a new country but getting through it together will make everything much easier. 😊
I hope this blog post will help you see that there is hope even in the midst of chaos. Although moving abroad is not an easy thing to do, it is an experience that can truly bond the partners together if they learn how to communicate with each other and accept that both parties have different feelings and different needs that need to be met.
When in need of a person that has gone through all this, that can listen without judgment and help you with proven tools to have a smoother move and a healthier relationship after the move, just send me an email and I’ll be happy to guide you through a happier future together.
Michael is a Master Coach with over 6 years of coaching experience and +30y of expat living experience - he lived in the US, the Middle East, and Europe.
He now lives in Finland, enjoying the many countryside living perks, he is a teacher and also a father.